A few weeks ago I presented a workshop on the above topic live in audio/visual format to a class. This was done during an International Symposium on the forum www.learnitlive.com. I was asked to join as part of a selection of 70 world leaders in spirituality presenting their individual topics. Why did I choose this topic for my presentation? I did this because Isolation and its associated stressors are endemic in our civilised society as well as in other facets of our world forum.
Loneliness is common for a huge chunk of our population. There are many reasons that isolation, leading to feelings of loneliness and stress happens to occur.
Perhaps through family break up, we have lost track of our support systems. Perhaps these support systems never existed for us because our family was not supportive or was dysfunctional? Family can be a blessing, an absolute minefield of discord and everything in between. The thing is we are each individual in the way we think, perceive and react to any situation. We are a box of genetic inheritances, distinguishing personality features, gifts and talents and even soul qualities that we bring with us into this body to fulfil a particular soul purpose.
We choose in spiritual terms the general environment and family into which we are to be born. This may not be something everyone agrees with consciously, but from a spiritual perspective it is my belief, demonstrated over and over to me during many life coaching/spiritual healing consultations I have conducted over thirty years in practice.
Because we are all individuals we have different perspectives, perhaps of the same situation, existing in our family and our childhood. What to one is awesome to another can be an annoyance.
When we detach from our reality for whatever reason, depending on how we do this, we may one day find ourselves in a situation where we have become isolated. It can be very attractive to be alone, silent, without drama and without responsibility for others in our lives. That is great if it works for you.
What if you find yourself isolated in life and really are not coping with this? Some of the feelings you will commonly find in this situation are:
lowered self esteem
feelings of inadequacy
feeling unsure of how to communicate and regroup with others
lack of confidence
stress and anxiety including feelings of depression
illness and pain
lack and poverty
potential reliance on medications or drugs to act as a buffer for our lack of contact and coping mechanisms…….
and there will be more.
Lack and abundance strangely can be something which happens. People who are very busy with work and creating their money and lifestyle choices can inadvertently alienate themselves from their loved ones via the lack of investment in time and attention which can signify disinterest and without dedication to communicating with them. You receive what you put into any situation as an energetic mirror.
You can be so well-off financially that you no longer fit the mainstream and therefore become isolated because everyone else you know or associate with is busy making money, being at meetings etc and consequently you have lost a social circle with which to take time out. No-one has the time! It is about life balance. You can be busy in a crowd and incredibly isolated from your inner core and truth.
Whatever the cause you do need some strategies to recognise you are ok as a person and for self-validation. You need ways to cope with the stress and heavy feelings themselves.
There are many ways you can distract yourself, but I am assuming you want to heal yourself and learn how to regroup with yourself and others again, no matter what your situation?
Here are some helpful tips
Breath and reflect.
Take the time to sit with yourself, not in fear and punishing criticism, but in the centre of your heart. Have a look at yourself and see if you can identify how you came to be in this situation in the first place. Deal with the mirror but don’t use it as a crucifix.
Start a gratitude journal
Take the time to note down often about the good things which you do have in your life. Be grateful for the little things about yourself and your space which can support healthy and positive thoughts.
Look around you
No matter where you are there will be someone else who is probably feeling similar. Look around you in your community for places you can go or interact with others of a like mind. I mean a like mind not a depressed, angry nor stressful mind. Look for healthy alternatives to keep you occupied. A group, class, music event or concert, park or communal place of interest where other people gather can provide you with a forum and opportunity. See what is available for you to join into.
Give yourself a chance to be loved
Own your lovability. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t find it easy to find another who loves you. Look in that mirror and stop criticising your self and your choices. Don’t project your angst on another. Just bite the bullet a little if you can and accept your worth to be here. Seriously, own it!
If you can adapt healthy practices to support you and bring down your stress and feelings of isolation you will become your own best friend. A smile at yourself daily will promote a positive visage for others to feel about you. The change in you will become palpable in subtle ways which will make you attractive to others.
I am going to provide a monthly class program to help you and to provide support. As I am a qualified hypnotist as well as naturopath, I am going to conduct a series of self-help hypnosis classes for you all if you would like to join in my program. This program will be at an awesomely low price but you will experience a hypnosis session on a different topic each month. Once you have registered for the class you will be able to re-enter this classroom recording and replay at will thereafter. After this series completes I will be running monthly programs on an ongoing basis on various self-help topics.
The topics will be, for example, “Dealing with Anxiety” “Positive Body Image”, “Life Balance” “Finding Love” etc. I look forward to seeing you there. Details of this program will be in my www.learnitlive.com profile as an instructor for you to register if you enjoy what you have experienced so far.
The commencing class date for the paid program will be AEST 9am Thursday 5 May, 2016 which is 7pm EST USA Wednesday 4 May, 2016. I look forward to seeing you there. If you can’t make the time, register to access the recordings.
Namaste and be at peace.
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Till next week, love and light
Katherine Bright ND
Copyright Katherine Bright 2016