Why should be even need to ask that question? Isn’t it normal to love? Well for some people it is very normal and for others it isn’t. What is unconditional love versus conditional love?
Unconditional love means you love unconditionally. You give without the thought of needing to receive.
Conditional love means you love with rules and conditions which if not meant means you are likely to withdraw the love.
I have encountered both sorts of people many times. The givers and the takers, the carers and the sacrificers.
Who are you in your own world? Do you take care of yourself or do you sacrifice yourself? What about others?
We can all have agendas in life. Refugees, war, homeless people, unemployed people, rich people, religions, propoganda, politics and money.
Unconditionally we should be sending out high frequency vibes everywhere to help this world to assume the understanding and compassionate knowledge of loving unconditionally. Make a little love, make a little move towards peace and harmony.
If you are used and abused, say no more and give yourself the love you are lacking. Do not make neglect your mantra, instead embrace the possibilities of the abundance of love.
This world has to learn to love before it thinks!
Use the tools you have and meditate when you are able.
March has been a very busy month for me. It is usually a busy life for me but I have been particularly busy this month.
We held a three day healing festival in Port Macquarie for my students, I conducted three reiki classes and did the usual clinic, weekly radio hosting of my program on www.newsforthesoul.com called Connect To Creator, and wrote a lot of material for my new partnership business Scale It Up Now.
I thought about the juggle of the active mind. I have a very active mind! Sometimes it won’t be quiet at all and sometimes it is serene. Yes I think if you could picture my mind you could picture a juggler with a series of balls, deciding which ones to allocate a topic or task you and then rotating them with skill.
I have a skillful mind. I have an amazing soul that tirelessly works and invents for the greater good. I have a human body which sometimes wonders what the heck I am doing?
Do you have that problem? A mind full of tricks and inventions and a body with a finite energy source. I look after myself and rest too. Don’t get me wrong, I am no machine of work. I am however actively engaged in life. I sing in a barbershop quartet, I am rehearsing in a musical for a broadway production, I am writing courses, material , hypnosis scripts,, books and music. I even wrote a song this month and recorded it.
No I am not superhuman, stupidly driven or mad. I am living the way I live. I am guaging my surroundings, my life and my intentions, my soul purpose and finding ways to fulfil them. Yes I do meditate and sit quietly. Sometimes I vegetate in front of the TV. I do all sorts of things to assist my peace. I walk in nature and I swim in my pool. I laugh a lot and I experiment with silly things that take my fancy.
A snapshot of the month of March has its own inclusions. I bought new makeup called Yunique which I decided is marvellous. It didn’t cause me excema on my eyelid. Something eyeshadows can do. Therefore I give it a plus.
My youngest son wrote new music on the piano. My other son showed me photos of his holiday with partner and son on facebook and I saw him loving fatherhood. My middle son is building my new website and is often emailing me so we are getting lots of chats in. My daughter is busy with six children so we don’t talk as often as could be perhaps, but I love seeing photos of the kids and the odd skype session. Sometimes I pine for them and days when they were growing up that I saw more of them. I did a bit of that in March. Where did I get the time to combine all these things? Sometimes in my dreams!
Life is full of dreams, abundances, joys and fortunate events. Life is especially full of these when you receive messages from friends, clients and family that say nice things about your efforts.
Abundance is life and where there is empowerment there is no fear.
I wish you abundance.
Till next week, love and light Katherine Bright ND
Here is something very special. A once in a lifetime exclusive Vancouver Healing Event, presented by Katherine Bright ND and Kim Bright accompanied by a selection of the Theta Resonance At All Levels network of healers from around the world. You can enrol and pre-purchase on your early bird registration on this link now.
More information: Experience an afternoon of healing, light-work, music, FUN, awesome connection and time spent with the specialist Theta Resonance At All Levels network of healers and light workers who have travelled from Australia, UK and USA to be here.
Experience the Connect To Creator process and learn to connect to your higher self and Source to do healing. Experience guided meditation and one on one interaction in an intimate setting with these two internationally renowned spiritual healers, alternative therapists and life coaches.
Katherine is a renowned musician and author who can weave a wonderful event with joy, fun and laughter. Be part of a once-off special treat. Live coverage by Nicole Whitney on www.newsforthesoul.com for this event.
Public welcome. Come and say hello personally; Be part of the group and find your inner well-being in a safe and comfortable atmosphere.
Tickets will sell out fast so please be quick to reserve your place in this one in a lifetime event.
And for those in the network of healers and for those wishing to be, and wanting to have more in-depth connection with us here is further information on how you can join in with the exclusive group. As we have people coming in from UK, USA and Australia already, you are most welcome. PLEASE NOTE: ENTRY TO THIS IS NETWORK TOUR IS LIMITED AND HEAVILY DISCOUNTED SO PLEASE APPLY IMMEDIATELY TO BE ABLE TO BE INCLUDED IN THIS PART OF THE TOUR. ONLY EIGHT PLACES LEFT.
Details of how you can join in are on this link below with the text written below for those of you who want quick access to the information specifically.
INTERNATIONAL EVENT, VANCOUVER CANADA
OPEN Public Festival Event, This event will be attended and covered for radio by Nicole Whitney, www.newsforthesoul.com in Vancouver
DATE: 30 June 2017, 1-5pm Unity Centre, Vancouver, Ticket Price $50 AUD including refreshments.
Our group of Theta Resonance At All Levels participants will attend. Join us for a festival of Connection to Creator, Meditation, Music and fun! MEET THE AUSSIES ET ALL!
We have students from our network travelling from around the world to attend.This next section comprises an exlusive component for our Theta Resonance At All Levels workshop students, or those who have completed the Connect To Creator online course or personal mentoring directly with Katherine Bright ONLY. If you wish to participate in this section, please enroll and complete the Connect To Creator online course as shown here – www.connecttocreator.com
EXCLUSIVE EVENTS over the next few days will be:
Exclusive Working Party of Theta Resonance At All Levels students travelling over from Australia, USA and UK so far!. We are having a party!!!!!!
30 June 2017, Evening Star Show at the Planetarium, Space Centre, Vancouver. Experience the dome theatre experience and visit the stars!
We will be visiting Stanley Park. Vancouver. Katherine and Kim Bright will be personally guiding a small groupd to a special part of Standley Park and guiding you through a connection and meditation experience with the trees and land devas,
There will be a Guided Indigenous Canadian Indian cultural experience in Stanley Park. and much more on your own spiritual development to be had in this amazing forest and part of the world. Enjoy your own free time to explore and holiday in Vancouver after our events complete. This is your chance for an amazing spiritual experience with like-minded souls.
Oh the fun! Network of students invited by enrolment directly with Katherine Bright only. Numbers are limited. Please email me directly if you are interested.
Cost: This has been kept to a minimum and will be $1100AUD including GST and includes your festival ticket, refreshments at the venue and ticket entry to Space Centre and Stanley Park events. NB Deposits to secure your place should be forwarded asap to Katherine please as numbers will need to be accounted for exactly including pre-purchase of tickets etc.
NB Your are responsible for all yourself, your own personal costs, including airfares and accommodation etc. This is not a guided tour. It is a series of events held by Katherine and Kim Bright in Vancouver. No responsibility is taken or accepted in any way by Katherine and Kim Bright for your personal journey apart from providing you with a beautiful set of experiences during scheduled events.
Stress is something we all have to live with. It is part of our everyday life in one form or another. Stress can be something very overwhelming, like an event or a traumatic incident. Stress can be chronic, like living in a bad marriage or with people with whom you have nothing in common.
Stress is insidious. We grow with our stress if we are not conscious of it mentally and spiritually. Meditation is a fantastic stress buster. So is consciousness. Being aware of your everyday reactions and responses, tendencies, likes and dislikes can help you to overcome stressful situations.
It is possible to be consciously aware enough to release yourself from those things which make your life stressful. Sometimes it takes guts and determination to break moulds of conditioning. It can also be a fact that you are in denial of stress and see it as inevitable, thereby condoning it in your life. This is very dis-empowering in thought and action. There are ways to manage stress.
Here are some of the ways in which you may return happiness to your day and sleep-time.
Stop and evaluate your routine.
Make constructive changes where you can, one thing at a time. For example if you don’t get enough sleep, set your alarm to tell you it is bedtime a half hour earlier so you remind yourself to head to bed. Your body clock will allow you little changes like this gradually enough that you won’t notice it so much.
Be prepared for change
Change can be one of the most stressful things you may have to deal with in life. Moving house, break up of relationship, new school year begins, a new workplace, a change of friendships, someone you love dies.
Negotiate your changes in bite-size chunks if you can and plan for success and ease and grace to be part of your optimistic viewpoint. Say yes to change and stop fighting it. This minimises stress hugely.
Hang out in supportive situations
Make sure you have friends who are constructive and be grateful around them. Allow yourself to be who you are and you will attract those people and situations toward yourself by default. It is very stressful if you feel you are not enough and are rejectable or abandoned. You are enough so demonstrate yourself to the world by knowing you deserve support.
Thrive to be alive
Gratitude and optimism are gifts from God. Use them and cultivate them. Get excited and if you aren’t excited about your life and you believe it is always stressful, start doing some self-help awareness meditations or hypnosis, seek out a group or club that makes you laugh, read good material that inspires you and listen to happy music to relieve the doldrums that you are wedged into in this routine of the everyday stressors. You cannot blame anyone else for your choices, and you don’t punish yourself if you find you made the wrong ones. Who does that serve? No-one. so thrive to be alive and understand you are worth change for less stress in your life and abundance to exist.
Remember in all things, you are alive on this planet and that is the way it is. You can choose healthy ways or you can choose stressful ways. No matter your circumstances you can choose YOU!
If you feel you would like more insight on your stress blocks, please feel free to consult with me or my husband Kim in clinic consultations and get the support you need to move forward in ease and grace, recognising where and how to make change and support a well-being filled life, managing your stress constructively.
Till next week, love and light Katherine Bright ND
So here we are in a New Year and we still have the same headlines. I have a huge hope that our prayers are changing the blueprint of this planet to one of compassion, love, light and peace at last. I pray daily for this in a very positive way. I use my skills as a master healer to support the Earth’s blueprint for humanity, not to be pessimistic at the changes, or lack thereof we witness now in our haste to condemn everything we feel hopeless about.
I see the atrocities we are so used to ignoring. Who really cares about the size of Kim Kardashian’s butt except for possibly her and her husband. For me there are much more pressing concerns on this planet. I pray for a much less superficial and social-media driven gossiping world. I pray that humanity will be less impressed by the superficial and mediocre and more impressed with headlines outlining good works in the name of peace and integrity.
If someone loses their possessions it can be hugely disproportionate depending on their geographical location and circumstances. Losing a 12 million dollar ring which is insured, or losing your last piece of clean food to the dirt. That really does put it in perspective doesn’t it?
I am totally unimpressed with showiness without an integrity for the light to prevail. I see no point except to teach humanity what it doesn’t need in the scantily-clad, cosmetic surgery evidenced in many popular publications and movies. What I like is a good bit of real and intergrous emotion shown in a tasteful way with a solution presented that we can all really contemplate. I love a compassionate display of giving. I love the sites on our social media which show positivity, integrity, philanthropy and have a disregard for the harm and gossip that the savage or lesser intellect will value.
Poverty isn’t always about money. It can be about class. You cannot buy that.
Hope for a better world and the thoughts you have will follow into the group consciousness with every positive thought you can create. You are not helpless amongst the headlines of sadness and gloom. Use each upset you see as an opportunity to ask the universe for resolve and change of what we are prepared to tolerate on this planet. Say no I won’t choose ignorance or avoidance of the headlines. I will choose to send light to them. Each one of us can do that. Envisage a blessing of rainbow light and thought project it to any cause you wish to prosper and any situation you wish would resolve for the better in light.
Remember to breathe in every time you breathe out. Why? Because if you don’t you die. Strange thing to say you might think. But we do this every day without understanding that to give and not receive is an imbalance of energy. Air is life-force energy.
If you over-possess, stress, punish, dominate or criticise you hold your breath. Anger is holding out the life-force in a stagnancy which leads to liver dysfunction, heart dysfunction etc. Often anger is a cry for help and a shout that we haven’t received somehow and we are mightily displeased about that, often enough to punish another. The small wars and the big wars are often about the unequal energies of give and receive, ownership and lack, the opposite side of the coin so to speak. Revenge is an ugly mirror full of consequences.
If you breathe in and out slowly enough, all things which are out of balance take on a clarity. You learn to take the time to perceive. To do this is to receive. This clarifies a disordered energy and so the perception again is allowed some time to consider itself. This is compassion for the self, and it will lead to compassion for others, less revenge and violence and a perception of love and peace as a possibility.
Do not use the sentence “what can I do about it?” That is such a cop out. Use the positive in any sentence. “What can I do about it?” Take a chance on using your empowerment instead of your fear and prosper your surroundings in every little way you can all the time.
You breathe in remember, so you won’t get too tired to do it. You create little holidays of energy-replenishment every time you slowly breathe in, clarity of perception and hope become possibilities in your creative self. Therefore you will create a different environment around you and teach humanity it is possible.
Namaste, and happy praying, blessing and being.
Please check out my website for tools to help your forward movement to love, light and support.
Namaste dear ones! Merry Christmas to you all and may you be blessed with a wondrous life full of fulfilling experiences over this spiritual time. And to benefit even more it is suggested you avoid the shops and find nature as your playground!
Kim, my son Isaac and I are performing at The Glasshouse in Port Macquarie today for a Christmas Concert. Isaac is 15 years old and will be playing the piano for me singing Imagine by John Lennon. It is his first performance of this type so it is exciting and nerve wracking also for him. Kim and I are singing and performing some songs along with other performers to entertain at a Community Concert Lunchtime Recital before Christmas. These are hosted for us at The Glasshouse weekly as an incentive where we donate our time to provide donation funds from the audience to supply and repair musical instruments for children who cannot afford them. It is a Merry Christmas philanthropy from us all.
And now for some thoughts on Christmas and God……
“You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.
You can lead Mohammed to the mountain but you cant take the mountain to Mohammed.
Where there is a will, there is a way.
The above are some of the sayings the human group consciousness lives by. Are they helpful or are they not in the scheme of changing our paradigms and moving forward with new and wondrous thoughts? In some way they all speak of not forcing but of flowing. They can speak of our possibilities or our avoidances.
In my life I have benefited in so many ways from obtaining my answers directly from source and avoiding human opinions. I think this is one of the most pressing reasons I have taught my workshops and been a messenger. It is because I think people deserve to receive their advice from Source/Creator/God first before a human gets a chance to interpret it from their own limited mind or knowledge.
I teach people to converse with God. It is my passion to empower. As Creator/God/Source told me when I was first asked to develop Theta Resonance At All Levels workshops and teach them…….”Where There Is Empowerment There Is No Fear” and so my modality was born from this statement and mission.
If you would like to know more about ways to also speak directly to Source/Creator/God, please contact me. I teach selected students personally, one on one to develop them to their full potential. This isn’t suitable for everyone but particularly helpful for some. Those whose passion it is to follow their spiritual enlightenment find a way to my door. If they feel right, I will agree to teach them. I rely on advice directly from Source if I am to be the one who will be their teacher. It doesn’t have to be me, but if it is to be me your integrity and soul purpose will be in tune and we will both know. It only comes from a common purpose in the universe if it is right and integrous.
You can also look at my website and even take an online course in your own time to learn the skills in the comfort of your own home and I am there with audios to walk you through your personal and spiritual growth to connection.
Here is a link if you want to explore more about that avenue of communication with our wondrous Source.”
Christmas. The silly season. Deck the hall with bows of holly and drink mead, kiss under the mistletoe and give and receive presents.
That is the expected norm of our western Christmas season. Some people go to church to celebrate Jesus and some people don’t. Some people have family and some people don’t. Some people love Christmas and spend the few months before this day decorating their house and garden with ornaments, a tree, christmas lights, planning meals, events and festivities. Some people live on the street and hope to have a meal, find shelter and safety in a troubled existence which finds Christmas an enormous challenge in loneliness and lack of community and abundance.
Whatever your Christmas season is going to be it is the best interests of all of us if we learn to share our optimism, abundance and grace with others. Any others!
Who are you and what can you do this Christmas to make the world a better place? We can feel powerless to make change. What will Syria be experiencing this Christmas? Who will be left to make change in the current political atmosphere? Will there be any buildings left after the bombardmet? Is Christmas relevant religiously or politically anyway in Syria? This scenario isn’t isolated on this blue planet is it?
Compassion is the gift we can give to all of humanity from our little space to anywhere we wish. We can give it in the form of gifts and money, smiles, food, activities and games shared, music and any form of light frequency of prayer that is our personal choice. After all Christmas is about giving isn’t it? Even the stores will extol that message to all that will hear it for two months before the big day.
I will give you thought for Christmas. Check out this link and think of the isolated, elderly and lonely who just want to know someone cares and that they are not irrelevant in their old age.
I will give you peace in my prayers for you. This newsletter comes in time for you to think and choose your philanthropic gift to give and post to someone who might feel left out perhaps.
Love and light till next week and please check out my website also in case something I offer may be a present for someone you cherish. I hope to make a difference in this world too. I pass on my profits to fund many things including my free weekly radio program on www.newsforthesoul.com
Your purchases help to fund projects along the way which help others too. That is my gift to you.
See my website below for further information on what could be on offer.
Recently I was sent a newsletter from an Australian child who lives in the middle of Australia, “the scrub”, “the outback”, where life can be very isolated.
The isolation has some wonderful benefits but also makes life quite different than that of a city child.
My client and friend Nancy has wonderful grandchildren. One of these is John who has shared his story with us today.
Recently Callum and Grace have gone to boarding school and are studying in a different environment to the previous “school of the air” distance education with a tutor and schooling provided over the airwaves and via post and radio communication. Of course that is the formal education.
Life is its own education and the life of a farm or country child has different duties. No bus to catch to school and traffic to tackle, but animals to feed and food to grow and much much more in nature skills to learn.
Nancy Robinson has given us some information about a very special young man named John who has given us permission to display his work here. John is in year 5. Nancy is an amazing woman. She is a farmer, has a well known profile as a biologist and writer and landkeeper of “Ellerslie”, near Bourke.
Here is Nancy’s introduction.
“John loves his life out here. All his school work is done at Dunsandle through Dubbo Distance Education School. They have great teachers who cater for their needs. One thing about having been with a bad school is it makes you appreciate a good one!
Caroline is a marvellous mother come teacher. She had her hands full with Calum, Grace and John with school taking up most of her time, something most mothers can not imagine. School holidays are viewed differently when your having a holiday with the kids. It certainly helps when you have willing students but Distance Education is a marvellous start for kids. Only problem is isolation; lack of other children to play with, never been with a lot of kids and coping with the classroom method with lots of children. Calum and Grace are adjusting quite well and both LOVE boarding school.
The first photograph, John and Caroline entered it in the NSW Farmers photograph comp AND it won! They have a $10,000 holiday to go on. He titled the photograph : Remembering his grandfather Malcolm Robinson who was a long term serving member of the Western District’s Council of NSW Farmers.
John is quite an individual, bright and charming! …. biased opinion! The scary thing is that he is developing into a 2nd Malcolm! Loves poetry, reading, Rugby Union, music and spelling. He made it to the regionals last week in the Premiers Spelling Bee. Along with the land & all that goes with it he also loves the Moorambilla singing group of which he is going to this week .
Hope this might help you fill in some of the gaps. Love Nancy”
and Here is Nancy’s grandson John’s story:-
This amazing childhood speaks for itself.
Till next week
love and light, peace and purpose
New titles on my hypnosis downloads
Relaxation – Relief from Stress
Deep Healing and Understanding Yourself Meditation
Below is a wonderful youtube clip done by The Pope of the Roman Catholic Church which asks us all to embrace our sameness not our differences. It asks us to acknowledge that there is only one God, just different faiths and practices. I think it is absolutely awesome and uniting for humanity if you can embrace our common philosophies of spirituality and embrace also our differences in tolerance, not intolerance.
So I ask you as part of humanity to consider giving compassion, tolerance and commonality a fair go!
Whether it is religion or spirituality, or perhaps just being human in general, we deserve a fair go. It is possible to be compassionate when we are comfortable but we find it much harder to be fair and impartial when we are challenged in our belief systems. Conditioning can make us very regimented in our beliefs and practices, our habits and cultural paradigms. However when it comes down to it, we all have legs, arms, heads, torsos and faces. We all have skin, no matter what colour it comes in. We all have hearts with which to feel and discern. Often they are used for prejudice and judgement when they are meant for love, light and peace.
So today I would ask all of humanity to be fair. Come on. Try being non-judgemental, moderate, tolerant, discerning, loving, peaceful and above all united. Namaste.
love and light
Katherine Bright ND
In case you want some tools to help you please check out these links
Well there is a saying! You can laugh so hard at some things it almost feels like an explosion in your brain. Laughing really well is so healthy!
It is the strongest and healthiest force in the universe next to love. I know because Creator told me so in a channelling, and that makes so much sense.
There is nothing like a comedy; a side-splitting cacophany of bubbling gurgles which cannot be controlled. Endorphins are released and body organs healed with the frequency of laughter. True!
Happy people display laughter as a normal attribute. It dispels anger and the dis-ease of everyday frustrations. Kids will laugh easily and often at most anything and you know we should copy them.
I have included a video clip of one of the funniest things I have seen. Two grown men doing an experiment which makes them laugh so hard you cannot help yourself but to do the same. It has gone viral on YouTube for a good reason. It makes us feel really good. It is ridiculous, marvelous and upliftingly stupid. The clip is in German but the actions are universal.
I hope you really enjoy this one. I dare you not to be in hysterics by the end, even if you have no idea what they are saying.
I love to hear from you. Today someone told me they thought I had stopped sending out the daily inspirations a while back because they hadn’t been receiving them. Just letting you know I am still sending them daily and if you have been missing out because the “tech fairy” somehow unsubscribed you and want to make sure you get them, please resubscribe on my website or send me an email sharing a greeting and I will resubmit your email address for you.
Also I just want to thank everyone who takes the time to send the lovely wishes and thanks, sharing their stories and communicating. Healthy communication only takes a paragraph here and there. I send mine because I think I could have something worthwhile to share and you may well have something worthwhile also to share with me or others. If you have a story to tell, please send me your thoughts for inclusion here or just because you love to communicate. 🙂 Bear in mind that I have a large subscriber list so send them in short form with big meanings lol. WE live in different places, situations and times, countries and zones, so we can all share a little of life for the interest of others paradigms, knowledge and growth.
Keeping in touch doesn’t have to be everyday, weekly, monthly or yearly. Keeping in touch also means thinking of someone and sending them a blessing in thought or letter, email or phone.
Keeping in touch also means sometimes taking contemplation in the space of silent observation. Does that sound weird?
It isn’t. Keeping in touch is a way of assessing yourself. Keep in touch with your “self”, who you are and what you feel you stand for and embrace. Keep current with your needs, wants and wishes. Provide only that which does not drain you away from your core self. This is a way of keeping in touch with your soul mission and your body’s needs for health and well-being.
Meditation is a healthy way to keep in touch with your inner self. Fear is a great distraction and sometimes keeps us away from that space of introspection because we may fear what we could see in our inner self.
Believe me, take the time to spend inside your core heart-space and you will dissipate the fear. If you find some discomfort in there, head inside it and experience it rather than taking the choice to run. Better recognised, kept in touch with, and then released to God to take care of for you. The universe has infinite capacity to bless you with abundance in your manifests for grace and ease if you Let Go and Let God, which you can only do if you truthfully experience your core in all its processes.
So remember a few really helpful tips…..you don’t only find them on social media! Keep in touch with your integrity, love and light and you cannot go far off the path of your universal synchronicity.
Blessings and please remember to take care of yourself as well as others. Share yourself in grace……we all deserve it 🙂
Till next week, love and light
Katherine Bright ND
What a question? No but seriously do you know the difference between friends you are used to and friends you are welcomed by?
Interesting concept for those of the overly tolerant mindset or those who have been conditioned to accept less for themselves in life generally.
A real friend is someone who respects you no matter what anyone else says or does because they truly understand and like you for yourself, your actions and what you represent. They love you for you!
A real friend will look out for you in times of need without needing something in return. A real friend will not question your intentions because they know you will be there for them also.
A real friend will remember you over the years, even if you don’t get to speak to each other often. The next catch up will not hold resentment but welcome words and hugs in the voice. You know that sometimes life passes before your eyes and you haven’t realised how long it has been since your last catch up.
If you consider yourself a real friend then ask yourselves these questions as a checklist of your own intentions in your own friends’ spaces:
Do you always want the best for your friend no matter what?
Do you communicate your needs accurately to your friend, or do you hold resentments and talk about them behind their back if you haven’t got the guts to speak to them? Perhaps you don’t know how to negotiate? Do you sometimes give them a gift, just because, without expectations?
Do you understand when they need time out without punishing them for it?
Do you judge their dress sense, weight, family, appearance as lesser than yourself, comparing them?
Do you laugh together?
Do you feel comfortable together?
Do you share meals and communion in that sacred space of intimacy?
Do they have to be something you expect them to be in order to keep your friendship?(by this I mean unreasonably expect, not discernment exercised about your safety etc in their space)
Do you make them feel good in public or in friendship groups, or do you feel they are the lesser twin that makes you feel better (can happen often in friendships if you are an unrecognised narcissist) It is worth reflecting on this one?
OK so conversely if your friends don’t make you feel good, laugh with you, or talk about you behind your back, do you know how to be heard, detach healthily or pick yourself first without fear of judgement?
Friendships can be a minefield if not managed because you can feel used and abused by the ones closest to you; often closer than some families are in fact.
So if you were brought up to be an over-carer or giver you may not know how to set healthy boundaries in friendship and resent the friend who calls with the same repetitive personal scenario on the phone lamenting all and sundry. Instead you may need to learn some ascertiveness to establish a boundary for them in your life and perhaps also to help them to move on.
Life is like a box of chocolates; full of variety, certain likes and dislikes, and whether we consider ourselves spiritual or not we all have choice and choice is freedom. Choose your friends wisely and know you deserve the best in interaction with others close to you, and so do they.
I will share with you that my favourite chocolate friend feels like a caramel with a little tangy, salty, gooey centre and a lot of time to be together before they are gone, flowing delicately into the crevices of my mouth and tastebuds of life I enjoy the flow and the deliciousness of their unique nature before I get to be on my own again remembering their sweetness and richness with a reflective chuckle over shared confidences.
To all my nutty friends I also like your crunch and flavour. To my spicy friends I love your warmth To my tropical friends I love your laid-back attitude To all my friends in all places of the world I love you just because. To all my as-yet-unmet friends “hello!”
I am selective about how I can spend my time in a busy life between new acquaintances and “friendship circle friends” and spend time being authentic with all. After all it is a journey from one to the other isn’t it?
I love you and hello if I haven’t met you yet. I can’t wait 🙂 I know that I deserve the best of true and honest friends.
Here is a song for you. I often sing this at music gigs because it is a great atmospheric song of support.